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Military family takes the war personally

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DUBUQUE (KWWL)-- It's never easy for families separated by war. But technology at least makes communication a little easier. Sgt. Kenneth Cain of Dubuque, in Afghanistan with the 1-133, uses the web video service Skype to talk to his family back here in Eastern Iowa.

"Your son's going to ham it up for the camera", says his wife, Tabitha, via Skype one recent Sunday morning. On this day, Sgt. Cain gets to enjoy about 30-minutes of live conversation with his wife and two sons, 3-year old Loren, and  9-month old, Connor. Also here on this day is Sgt Cain's Mom, Kim Fisch, and his younger brother Michael, a junior At Dubuque Senior.

They try to keep the conversations light and positive. "Say what are you doing Dad---What you doing Daddy? I'm talking to you. What are you doing?" Says Tabitha, "I actually don't let it get to me as much. I try not to think of the bad part of where he's at. I know there's a chance that he can get into a gun fight or something, but I try to think the positive."

Tabitha adds, "He sends pictures home of him and the guys over there and the area but it helps a lot to see his face and actually be able to talk to him and see him move. That's just nice."

Tabitha & Sgt. Cain, or, KJ as they call him-married in 2006, right before his first deployment with the 1-133rd  to another far-area land, Kosovo.

Today, he's Alpha Company's 2nd Platoon Squad Leader in Afghanistan, and like so many, once again, he's has had to leave behind his wife and children.

His wife worries. "Sometimes you get that fear. I don't want to say it, but what if he doesn't come back." That often unspoken fear grips all military families in this time of war.

Sgt. Cain's mother is Kim Fisch. "When they said Afghanistan, it scared me. Because, I knew there was a lot going on there." And for Kim, her worries extend beyond oldest son KJ. Kim has two sons over there now. Her middle son, Kurt, is also with the 1-133 serving in Afghanistan.

"It was hard. But, now that they're there. I think it's easier for me now that they're there, because I know they want to be there. It's something they chose to do. And, being able to see them, or talk to them on a daily basis really helps me get through a lot of this."

Sgt. Cain's younger brother, Michael, says he and his brothers are very competitive. Mike says, "They're trained to do what they do, so, I'm going to trust that they are going to do what they need to do to get the job done."

Sgt. Cain reflects on his mission. "Thinking about hopefully not having to come back here.  Try to do this right while we're over here, so our kids don't have to come back."

Tabitha adds, "I Hope that everyone out there can be very supportive and respect what all the guys are doing over there."

It's always especially tough on Mothers, like Kim: "It's always on my mind. Always. And, I think because they're my babies, and they'll always going to be my babies. They're always in my heart. I'm just hoping they both come back in one piece ."

Online Reporter:  Ron Steele

rsteele@kwwl.com

 

 

 

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